“Dear Single Woman Waiting for Marriage: Before You Say ‘I Do,’ Listen to This.”
- Digital Ink
- Apr 9
- 3 min read
(Proverbs 31:25)
This is not just another love story.
It’s a lifeline for your future — and your children’s future.
You’ve prayed.
You’ve fasted.
You’ve cried in the night, whispering: “Lord, when will it be my turn?”
But while you wait, hear this deeply:
Proverbs 31 is not a fairytale about waiting for a prince — it is a blueprint for becoming the bride of purpose.
The virtuous woman is not desperate — she is deliberate.
She is not chasing a man — she is chasing her mission.
She is not defined by her relationship status — she is defined by her reverence for God.
“She is clothed with strength and dignity; she can laugh at the days to come.”
(Proverbs 31:25)
She is not anxious about her future, because she knows God holds her future.
She rises early to set her house in order, to prepare her oil, to build her legacy.
“She gets up while it is still night; she provides food for her family and portions for her female servants.”
(Proverbs 31:15)
But let’s speak plainly.
Because while you are preparing, the enemy is plotting.
The devil is not just after your heart — he is after your household.
He is crafting a generational trap.
He especially targets children in single-parent homes, knowing where there is no covering, vulnerability increases.
His strategy?
To create a cycle of brokenness by producing teenage parents instead of covenant marriages.
To lure young hearts into premature intimacy.
To seduce them into sexual sin before they understand the weight of their calling.
To offer them counterfeit love, so they settle for counterfeit connections.
Because if he can produce teenage parents, the cycle continues:
• Single mothers burdened too early.
• Absent fathers running from responsibility.
• Children growing up craving love and falling into the same snares.
• Another generation repeating the pain.
But God’s Word calls you higher.
“She considers a field and buys it; out of her earnings she plants a vineyard.”
(Proverbs 31:16)
This is a woman of vision.
She is not planting seeds of destruction — she is planting vineyards of destiny.
Your decision to pursue purity is not just personal — it is generational.
Your choice to guard your heart doesn’t just protect your body — it protects your legacy.
“Her children arise and call her blessed; her husband also, and he praises her.”
(Proverbs 31:28)
When you walk in obedience, your future children will walk in blessing.
When you honor God now, you invite honor into your household later.
Yes, sex outside of God’s design may seem tempting — but it is a snare.
“Do not give your strength to women, nor your ways to that which destroys kings.”
(Proverbs 31:3)
Premature intimacy creates soul ties that delay destiny.
It clouds your discernment.
It opens doors for emotional wounds and generational chains.
But here is the promise:
God is a restorer.
No matter your past, He can cleanse you.
No matter your mistakes, He can redeem you.
No matter the cycle, He can break it.
“She opens her mouth with wisdom, and the teaching of kindness is on her tongue.”
(Proverbs 31:26)
Before you say “I do” to a man, say “I do” to God’s design.
Become the wife before you wear the title.
Pray for a man who seeks purpose, not perfection.
Let your life be built on the rock of His Word, not the sand of worldly desires.
“Charm is deceptive, and beauty is fleeting; but a woman who fears the Lord is to be praised.”
(Proverbs 31:30)
Marriage is not the prize — purpose is.
Marriage is not your identity — Christ is.
Walk in strength.
Walk in dignity.
Guard your heart.
Preserve your body.
Protect your legacy.
Because the cycle stops with you.
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Save this. Share this. Declare this over your life.
You are not delayed — you are being developed.
You are not forgotten — you are being fortified.
You are not broken — you are becoming the builder of a new legacy.
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